Hello forum!

My name's Matt and I'm 24 (4th Jan).

Had a chat with a psychic the other night at a party and she said I have a talent so I should get into this stuff.

My question for all of you is: what on Earth is my talent? Further to this, how do I develop it?

I mean, when I look at someone I feel what they are feeling. I know exactly what questions to ask to get to the root of someones current crises. But how do I channel this into something positive and purposeful?

How did you guys start out on your journeys?

I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Isn't that something positive and purposeful? You don't need to have a televison show, or be advisor to the king to influance the world. Just help the person in front of you.

Hi fooze


Sounds like you're emapthic - do a google search. Strong empathy is useful in every day life and any helping profession, especially healing, whether that be in the conventional or alternative field.

Do a search on empath on the forum and on google and see if it sounds like you.

Edit: Just seen on another post that you already know that your an Empath.

Hi Fooze,

Part of what I've learned in the last few months is that a lot of what can be "picked up" can feel very natural and subtle. There is a good chance you've been this way all your life, and so it might not be easy at first to realize just how often you are using your ability on a daily basis, or how often you've used it in the past. I think you should spend some time looking back on your past experiences and see how often it happened. I think you will discover so much about yourself this way. Many things that you did not understand might suddenly make perfect sense.

For me, this has been the first step.. simply learning about myself and coming to terms with who I am and how it works. My mother told me that when I was little, I didn't know about my abilities, and so she believes that I was afraid of it, and that is why I struggled. She said if she would have known back then, she would have helped me develop it at an early age. I spent a great deal of my childhood feeling out of place, but now I realize it was because I simply didn't understand what it was I was feeling or why.

A lot of healing can come from self discovery.

You said this in another post:

In my experience empathy has been completely one way, I feel them. I've never related empathy with being able to influence how others feel. Maybe that is your "gift"?

I guess empathy is a 'gift' because you can "better understand people"

that's how I see it anyway... but make sure to shield yourself from negative energies you might pick up. It isn't nice

Thank you all for your contributions to my thread!

Negative energies are not nice! They are important though.

I spend a lot of time analysing the 'dark'. Doing so led to years of sorrow and loneliness too! But the darkness intrigues me...

I don't want to be shielded from negative energies. I want them to hit me with their full force. I want to be blown around like a leaf in a hurricane. Only then can I understand what peace is.

jodee: you mention empathy in connection with healing. This is where I struggle. My insight is most powerful in the realm of darkness, so much of what I say can be seen as negative. I try to frame my insights in such a way as to cause as little distress as possible, but at their heart they are daggers.

Am I a valuable addition to our field or a liability?

You are valuable in that all diversity is valuable, and you are a liability in that it seems like you are trying to bate a negative response.

I don't understand why being different means I am valuable. Can you explain this more, The Kaiouken?

I suppose what I am trying to ask is if bringing forward darkness and pain is something I should be doing with my life.

People have this misconception that everyone should conform and be the same. I think that differences are the most important aspect of this reality. Without differences and diversity how would we be able to determine what we like and what we don't? The problem is once people find out what they like they try to force other people to like it, or they try to verify that it is acceptable (or conforming) to like. Or worse when they find out what they do not like they try to force others not to like it either.
I heard this excellent analogy one time:
Life is like a buffet, and like a buffet, you can pick and choose whatever you want on your plate. Then, some people try green beans, and they hate them! So they decide that they want to take green beans off the menu. So they lobby against green beans, and they try to get people to sign petitions against the green beans. The whole time though, all they had to do was not put green beans on their plate. Were the green beans jumping onto their plate? No. All they had to do was choose other food.
This analogy really hit home for me because I'm gay, so I feel like the green beans being petitioned against. But it's just so unnecessary, I'm not effecting them, so what right do they have to complain.
I feel that it is the same thing here, "darkness and pain" is something else people commonly take a stance against. But you know, if you like the asparagus, go ahead and help yourself, I've tried the asparagus and didn't quite like it. The truth is you are only making choices for yourself, if you did effect other people it is only because they too are choosing to be effected by you.
With that logic how could I possibly tell you "No, don't do it!" that would be ridiculous. You may do as you please and in fact I encourage you to do as you please. Just be careful not to accidentally "choose" to hurt yourself, or accidentally "choose" to go to jail.

And also about my first statement, I wanted to add that people need to feel like they belong to a group in order to be healthy, we are biologically wired that way. It is a necessary thing to be accepted but unnecessary to blindly follow without asking questions in my opinion.

Ah! That sure is an excellent analogy!

I think what you're saying is that I can be whatever vegetable I want, just expect not to be put on many plates?

Does this mean I am a Brussel Sprout?

Yes you're a brussel sprout if you want. Besides, later you can make a new choice if brussel sprouts don't work out for you. If it does then more power to you in my opinion. Of course, making a comment like this may make me a lima bean in some people's opinions.

OMG.

You won't beleive this!

I was just writing up my post for maldita's thread and the phone rang. So I get up and walk to the phone. Thinking "Who is this ringing me?" and "I wonder about my healing and how it works!".

It's true, I actually have exclamation marks in my head.

"Hello?" I say. It's none other than the lady from the hospital reminding my sister of her hospital appointment. (Don't worry, she's diabetic.)



Cool.

Edit: Written on the back of the note I took - I beleive the most important element for peace of mind is human compassion - the Dalai Lama. Just thought I'd share!

So how does your healing work? Do you look into a person and find their deepest darkest fears, their regrets, see things they'd rather forget for instance?

I see pain, fear, loneliness, spite, regret and probably some more.

The worst I see is somebody fooling themselves.

I see myself in them too.

So what do you do with these feelings that you pick up on them? Do you help them to face up to them, accept them as part of who they are, or release them for instance?

Just noticed you're signature - warm heart, cold mind! I think that would be essential in the field of criminal psychology, along with a very strong ability to release thoughts and feelings which are not your own.

I find this incredibly profound! Now I'm off to think...