I met this person online.

The main question is that I don't know if I should give the relationship a bit more time or if I should just break away, because from the way I see it, I only have these two choices to go with.

So it's a stay or leave situation...

I met him in the game that we were playing (before we quit).

The way we do things are different. (My sign is Capricorn, his sign is Saggitarius. I think what astrology says is pretty accurate..) He got lucky, had many contacts to depend on, while I strived hard to work my way through getting better at the game. From my observation, he's really bad at finances in the game. He has a way with people, loves being with people and usually charms them, but for me I'd prefer to be left to my own businesses. Still, we accomodated each other so everything was ok.

So now we've stopped playing. We still keep in contact with IM, voice chat and now we tried video, but I find it hard to strike a conversation with him other than "hi, what did you do today?". I don't know if this is because of a lack of interest or because it is the way I am...but for sure I always find myself going back to him..

A few hours back, I think I really upset him by commenting on his teeth and the way he looks but I didn't take back the comment nor apologise because he was having trouble with his teeth anyway...which I tried to explain with some success later on...

I don't like some of the recurring talk from him about him "being evil". I mean, what the hell is he expecting me to make out of it? That's he's not reliable? I will talk to him about it when I figure out a way to question him on it..

While from experiences so far, he's been reliable...what I'm worried is that he won't live up to his promises or ideals. He's been telling me about how he hates his Dad, sweet when dated his mum but treats her really bad after they got married...his greatest wish is that my life will be better than him (this actually worries me...yet I don't know exactly why)...

He seems really keen on me but I'm really somehow reluctant to return the favour...

He's promised to find me in a few years down the road, but I really don't know if I should bother to wait. I do sometimes think, what if another guy comes along in a period of time? What if it doesn't work out? I've mixed feelings about this relationship, especially since it is online, long-distance and I've never even met this person before. It's really hard to love someone who you can't physically be with... while I am ok with his personality, it's really hard for me to say I love him or anything...

From your post, I don't see any reasons why you should keep this going. I'm particularly dubious since you haven't met him yet... though I don't know how long you've known him for. From what you've written, it sounds like he is not ready for a relationship, either. However, it does sound like he needs a friend.

I suppose I'm old-fashioned because I can't fathom how two people can imagine they have a romantic relationship (vs. fantasy) when they've never been in one another's presence, haven't had the opportunity to interact whilst deciphering non-verbal clues and don't even know each other's day-to-day habits and routines really look like.

I imagine if you have an attraction to someone online and don't act on it quickly, it will naturally fizzle out.

His promise to find you "a few days down the road" is so undefined that I wouldn't call it a promise. It's more a dream, a vague pondering of potentials or simply fanciful woolgathering. A true promise would include a defined date and time so I most definitely wouldn't wait because it equates to waiting for nothing.



Agreed, I do think it is possible to carry out a casual friendship online.

I can see how you both can have feelings for each other. It's not so much about being in each other's presence as much as the energy they give off (I think). I am connected to some people I know online, so I can understand the desire to want to extend that into wanting to be around them in person.

Some people do meet others online, go on to meet them, befriend and/or date them. Sometimes they even get married. But in all honesty, I didn't feel any positive energy when I read your post. As I've said, he doesn't sound like he's ready for a relationship.... and the promise, while it might have been made with good intentions, is unrealistic. He might have believed it in the moment, but a few years is a long time, and people can change a whole lot within that time.

I would try not to get too attached to him... I'm sorry that this is probably not what you want to hear; however, I am thinking of your well-being.

Thank you Lady and Paige...I was really split over this for these past few days as I was trying to sort out my life...