Lately my boyfriend has been acting really weird. It seems almost as if he has no emotions when he's with me. I try to ask him what's wrong, but he won't tell me anything. I am so confused.

Can anyone feel anything about our relationship? is there something going on with him, or is it just the end of our relationship?

Thank You!

Uh oh. This doesn't sound good. You need to sit down and talk to him about this.

Even if it is just something with him, as your boyfriend you should be able to communicate openly.

I try to talk to him, but he won't tell me anything. I'm so confused.... it feels like he's tired of me or something, so I told him to move back into his house, but he won't. I don't know if he's cheating on me, or what.

We've been together for 6 1/2 years and this is the first time that I've felt so distant from him. He never smiles around me anymore and acts like there is something else on his mind. I feel like I'm dating a brick.... it's so weird. I miss him so much.... I don't feel loved by him anymore =(

What on earth?! Did you ask him or tell him? Are you still having sex?

It sounds like he isn't acknowledging this problem you've found. Become like a broken record, don't let up until he starts talking.

He did mention that it would probably be better if we didn't see each other all the time, so I asked him if he wanted to move back to his house, but he said no.

He isn't a good communicator; No matter how many times I ask him, He just won't tell me a thing. He keeps saying he doesn't know, or he doesn't want to talk about relationship problems. I'm at a complete loss. I don't want our relationship to end, but I feel like that's inevitable now.

Maybe he's not the one for me? =(

give him space doll. men are not like us...we love being around them .. but they need to know that they are still true to themselves

He's cheating on you

The thing is, he's he used to be the lovey-dovey one and all of a sudden he's not. I'm going on vacation, so I won't see him for a few days. Hopefully that will somewhat help us.He'll have time to think; I don't know if that's good or bad.

I agree with Vendetta23. He's cheating on you. I have so been there and done that. Mine was a very similar situation, and to my surprise he was cheating.

I hope he's not cheating. He's with me most of the time, except when he has school and work.

He just listed that he's in a relationship with me last week on facebook, so I don't know why he would do that and then cheat.

I wish I could just know all the answers! lol

I don't get a sense that he is cheating... just that he needs space...feels a little smothered ... (not trying to be rude ) best of luck darling

I don't think there has been any physical cheating....

Who do you know from his work?... are you able to talk to them?... I think the issue lays there....

thanks!! I'll give him more space. I always ask what he's doing and where he is and I know he hates that, so I'll just back off more.
He was actually being a little better today.... he wasn't as aloof as he had been.


Are you saying that there may be some one that he's interested in? My brother used to work with him, but I don't talk to any of his other coworkers. Maybe there's a girl that goes into his work that he's interested in?

No, I'm not quite saying that.... Sometimes it is easier to confide in a work friend... they don't necessarily have to be female... you know, the aloofness could be attributed to feeling flat, feeling low on energy, this can lead to moments of contemplation about everything in your life...

I will have a think about it for a day.... see what comes into my mind...

You are so right.

He has known his coworkers for a long time, so I wouldn't be surprised if he confided with some one at work.

I really appreciate you doing this for me =)

email sent...

WOW! thanks so much for your help! I found out that he had been meeting up with a girl at work and making out with her!! I'm not sure if he did any more than that because he won't admit to anything else. He at least told the girl that he doesn't want to talk to her anymore.

I feel bad because I feel like I drove him to do it. We fixed everything and we actually got the spark back into our relationship. We are more in love then ever =)

It's funny how everything worked out in the end.

You're welcome, DeMartini.

See you next time

So he cheated and you feel responsible?

I'm not saying that you cant forgive him and put this behind you, if thats what you feel you need to do, but please dont take responsibility.

Yeah, it sounds like he got caught, and made himself out to be sorry while subtly shifting the responsibility for his infraction onto DeMartini.

Did he give you any reasons as to why he felt the need to make out with the girl from work?

Agreed.

Shifting responsibility is a common tactic by those who are caught. Don't accept responsibility for an act you weren't even aware of.

Our relationship had been going downhill for a couple years and it was because I had stopped showing him love. He told me that for the last couple months he had been falling out of love with me and began to think that he wanted to see other girls. He never broke up with me because he still loved me and wasn't sure if it would be the right thing to do, as he knew that I wouldn't wait around for him if he did. He totally regrets cheating on me and seems genuinely sorry.

I know I shouldn't take responsibility, but I am part of the reason why he did it. If I hadn't pushed him away, he would have never cheated on me. He loves me a lot and takes care of me; I took that for granted for many years. We both love each other very much and I'm willing to move on and forget about the incident.

Do you guys feel that our relationship will last?

Who said this, you or your boyfriend?



Also this:



Was he sure that cheating on you was the right thing to do?

I could keep going, but have a read of this article and see if it fits your situation.

Edit: The forum software removed a letter from the link, you'll have to use your imagination to fill it in properly.

All of them are sincerely sorry once caught, he's no different than the rest.




I can see you taking responsibility for him wanting to leave the relationship but his decision to cheat is entirely, 100% on him regardless of what you may or may not have done.

Now that he knows you will take responsibility for his cheating, it will make it that much easier for him to step out in the future.

You are not part of the reason.... it was his choice alone...

I think you need to have a good think about things.....

Ask yourself this - Why was there no love shown in the first place?

What has changed?

Broken trust is hard to fix....

He is the one who said things had been going downhill for the last 2 years, but I have noticed that too. We have been together for 6 1/2 years. There was a point where I felt that I wasn't sure if he was the one for me; he just wouldn't take life seriously and I was completely turned off by that. For that reason I distanced myself for him. I thought that maybe a better guy would come along. He has matured so much in the last couple of months, but unfortunately it happened at the lowest point of our relationship.

For the last 2 years he had told me how much he missed the way we used to be, but I never changed. I continued to push him away. He tried so hard to fix things and continued to take care of me, but I acted the same. One can only take it for so long. He eventually cracked, realizing that he didn't want to spend the rest of his life with me, if I wasn't going to show him the love he craved. When he became distant, I realized how much I love him and that I was crazy for wanting more. I don't think any guy could be as loving and caring, as he has been towards me.

He was completely in the wrong for cheating and he knows that. He stayed with me because no matter what, he always would love me and deep down he was hoping that I would go back to loving him...the way I loved him before. He also knew that breaking up with me would completely change his life and he wasn't sure if it was a wise choice. He was very confused and he had this girl, who was all over him and giving him the attention he craved. I feel that if I waited any longer to fix our relationship, he would have left me.

I know broken trust is hard to fix, but I'm willing to bite the bullet, as I love him so much and am just happy to have that spark back in our relationship. If he ever cheats on me again, then I will walk out, but if you guys knew how much he loves me, I think you would realize that he's devoted to me and as long as I continue showing him that I love him, he will stay faithful to me.