Hi there,

I'm wondering if anyone can help me.

Almost a year ago, I had a nervous breakdown, and during the moment I "cracked", I lost my beautiful engagement ring in Japan. I know you'll probably think "Oh no! Another person just wanting to find something they were dumb enough to lose!", but I'm hoping if I explain the story behind, someone will be able to help.

I am lucky enough to be with my soulmate. We finally met on the 4th of June 2008, after 11 years of "just missing" each other in various places around the world (and a lifetime of unhappiness with other partners....), at times with just a curtain separating us! I ran him over with my suitcase, our eyes met, and we've been inseparable ever since. He proposed to me in Paris just 18 days after we met, even though he is a level headed pilot, and not normally impulsive, after starting to trust his own instincts for the very first time, he says he knew I was the one! Even though this ring was NOTHING like we had imagined it would be, we both saw it and it spoke to us. We had been searching all day. I had even dreamed of the store the night before, and had the name of the design house it was made by running around my head all day, even though I didn't know it was the name of a jewellery designer! We now have a beautiful baby daughter, and were compelled for some reason to give her the middle name Ava.... we have discovered that the name of the style of ring is Ava!

I feel like I have lost a piece of us, even after a year I am heartbroken, and though I know it is just a material thing, I can't stop thinking about it. I think about it every day. We have also had a lot of bad luck since it was lost, especially with my fiances ex, who is very malicious, and won't stop until she has ruined us ( although we won't EVER let that happen!! ). Our relationship is amazing though, and i am so happy I could burst!

I guess i would just like to find out why this ring has so much significance for us.... and obviously i would like to find it! I have tried the police, searching the area, my friend is in Japan at the minute and is keeping an eye out, and i have tried internet lost/found sites too.

Someone, please help! I don't know what else to do!

x BB x

PS. Sorry it's all a bit incoherent... been up all night with the baby! xx

Hello Boeingboeingbaby,

it is understandable that you are in a flap about the loss of the ring but I a hear a voice tell me quite firmly that all this frantic activity, this insistence, this intensive focus on what you have not got (the ring) is ironically the very action that is taking you away from the path of discovery.

Stop looking. Stop living in that past. Step back and let go and let the Universe (angels/god/God/Allah/ guides/ goddess... whatever you believe in) deliver it to you.

Of course the ring has significance for you! It is a symbol of the promises you made to each other.

If it is lost does it make you fear that the bond might be lost too... do you feel vulnerable? And worry if it a sign?

Put all your energy into focusing on what you have got and see what a difference it makes.

Good luck. I have heard a lot of strange stories about lost rings turning up years later.