My sister passed away very suddenly in December of 2006. We were not close, in fact we were quite bitter towards eachother for various reasons, for most of our childhood and adult lives. We were just two different people, neither willing to accept the other. I have no problem connecting with other peoples loved ones who have passed on and getting msgs to those wanting to hear from their dearly departed, but when it comes to my family members, for what ever reason they don't line up at my door. I do try to focus on her in particular, but it seems that so many others come thru. In my mind it looks like they are lining up at the box office waiting for concert tickets. When it all gets to be to much I close the door and turn off my porch light if you get what I mean. Could it be perhaps that they are a stronger energy? IDK !! If anyone could offer some insight it would be greatly appreciated.

Strong emotions, especially negative, can hinder attempts at contact.

If you wish to speak to her, then the best course of action is achieving closure with her (on your own of course) and then attempting contact. On the other side, she may or may not come around. Chances are she might with the healing work she is doing for herself but there is still freewill and she continues to be who she is, so she may not desire contact for many years if at all.

I think A Lady is right. Maybe you can try writing a letter to vent out all of your feelings, that has always helped me when I can't communicate with the one I am mad at.

Thanks A Lady. What you say makes sense. She must know the regrets that are eating me up inside as I have expressed them aloud many times. It's never to late for an apology, just should have said it many years ago. I understand now that life is to short. I had alot of missed opportunites to tell her I loved her despite our differences. Way to many woulda, shoulda,couldas. Thanks again!!

Thank you Kai for the advice. I stopped being angry at her the day she died. Was more angry at myself for all the horrible ways I had treated her in life. ~ Love and Light ~

You can also write a letter to yourself, that can be an interesting exercise as well.
I guess what I mean is it is best to explore and accept these emotions, as they are probably what is keeping you separated, not your sister.

Hi Blue Eyes,
I am not getting exactly why you are not connecting clearly with your sister but I wonder if perhaps you connect every now & again but that you don't exactly "recognize" her signature so to speak now? I know that some of my loved ones seem a lot like they were in life (though I feel that they do that partly to give me a good strong feel for who they are? Like symbols) but my mom "feels" very different to me. Mom had a lot of heavy stuff going on for her whole life almost. I was with her the day she passed on though & I Saw her as clear as can be & felt her as well. But I have to say, had I not known any better, I could have almost thought it was someone else entirely because so much of what made her the "her" that she was in her body when she was my mom, was gone. She was no longer sad, downtrodden or bitter. So quite simply, it would have been easy, had I not seen this shift right in front of me that day, to not recognize her later. If that makes any sense? I got a faint whiff if you will of a Spirit around you & I feel its your sister because I see an image of my sister as I say that. And she feels very calm, relaxed, and quietly happy. Thats just how it feels to me though.

Thanks Chiaro for the insight. What you say makes sense to me. Perhaps I should clarify that I do sense her presence around me, but that I cannot make the connection and or communicate with her. In other words I know she is here, no doubt about that but she doesn't communicate with me. My abilities are far more advanced than my knowledge of mediumship and all that it entails. I can speak with them, hear them, sense them, receive and send images, see them whether it be how they were in life or how they appear in spirit etc....... I am going to take the advice of the previous replies and see if I can get somewhere. Thanks again for giving it some thought. ~Love and Light~


Am going to write that letter today. Thanks Kai ~Love and Light~

When I was reading your post, what kept coming into my head, over & over, "she doesn't have to worry, I know", "I love her more today then I could have ever loved anyone, just dont worry its ok"...

I'm getting emotional writing that....

You know, I dont know why it seems to be more difficult to speak with ones own family, I know I dont have my father on speed dial, yet like you, I seem to have the whole spirit community over wanting a chat.... but in saying that I know he is around, I'm happy with that...

You know she is around you & I believe you will get to speak to her... when, I dont know but it will happen....