The love of your life probably isn't going to be the boy or girl next door and they could live suburbs, cities or even countries away, but when your heart-strings are pulled, you'll go to any length to be with your sweetheart. That’s what trains, planes and automobiles are for. However, there are other ways to stay connected with your love-mate, and also some great benefits of having a long distance relationship, so if you can’t be with your sweetheart as much as you’d like to, it's not all doom and gloom.
Read on to find out how you can keep a heart-to-heart connection strong even when you’re not together, and what the pluses are of being with someone who's not constantly accessible.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder: it's an old cliché, but it's true; when you don't see your love-mate all the time, you're less likely to take him or her for granted, and also you're less inclined to focus on petty issues, which are probably not all that important in the big scheme of loving and living.
Staying connected:
The electronic age makes it very easy to stay in touch, but don't underestimate the power of 3D togetherness. Electronics enhance our way of communicating and the options we have to inter-connect, but certainly doesn’t replace the touchy feely stuff and to really get to know your lover and progress any relationship to the next level, then physical togetherness is totally necessary.
But for those times between dating and visits, here's how you can build a closer bond of love and trust when you’re apart from each other.
Email: Daily emails are a quick personal way of staying in touch, and a lot of people have work and personal email addresses, so you can keep the communication going day and night.
Skype: Even if your sweetheart doesn’t live in the same city, state or country you can still talk on the phone without it being expensive, actually for a really good price if you both join Skype on www.skype.com, it’s FREE! And, if you're game you can get a little camera so you can see each other!
Electronic cards: These greeting cards are a great idea to send little love notes.
Electronic videos: You can even get software, which is really easy to use and take short 30-second videos to send via email.
Audio messages: An audio message can also be sent via email.
Snail mail: Yep, the postal service still sends snail mail and although this does seem a bit yesterday, it's still a buzz to receive a letter, card, or love note in your post box from someone special, not to mention flowers or a gift!
Long distance love is more common than most people think and with men and women both working and traveling even if they’re living together it can seem like they’re living apart. Here are some more tips to stay connected.
Book A Date:
Plan your next visit – this makes saying good-by easier. Don’t leave it longer than 4-6 weeks to be together, because longer than this time you risk detaching from each other making it harder to re-connect.
Make A Commitment:
Are you going to be sexually and emotionally faithful? How often will you communicate and see each other? Will you try a long-distance relationship, and then move to the same location? Be prepared, as these questions will come up for discussion.
Avoiding Conflict:
All relationships have conflict every now and again and long-distance love is no different. Recognize what your hot-spots are and work through them. But don’t leave them till you’re together, because you don’t want to spoil the precious moments you share when you’re physically together. Deal with them as they come up.
Warning signs:
When do you know the other is loosing interest? Messages are slow to return, arguments are more often, there’s no time to visit and when you’re together it’s obvious you’ve got different values. Differences can be worked through, but as you get to know each other, you may decide it’s time to move on. Whatever way it works, you’ll be wiser then before.
What to do between dates?
Independent relationships are very desirable for both parties in today’s world. The new generation of dating and loving is more about equality and the time between dates can be used to see your friends, learn extra skills, take a course, join a club, see movies or shows that don’t interest your partner, and all sorts of things that interest you as an individual, and lets not forget spending precious time just to be by yourself or to read a book.
This means you also have an individual and independent life outside of the life you share with your significant other, and that’s a very attractive quality to both parties. So don’t be too quick to totally absorb your life together with someone else’s, because in the long run being attached at the hip may not be as desirable as it once may have seemed.
And finally, the most asked question is, can a long-distance relationship work and the answer is; yes, Love Can Transcend Distance!
