Some places are tried and tested meeting and flirting venues and some of them are very unusual places to meet people at, and surprisingly, they do work - here’s the reasons why.
Supermarket
Worldwide, supermarkets are known to be one of the hottest flirting venues around. Ok here’s how it’s done. You make sure you have products in your shopping cart that show you’re single. Select products like microwave dinners for one. When you buy fruit and veg, have a bag with 2 or 3 pieces of fruit in it or just enough vegetables for one. You can tell a lot about someone by what they have in their shopping carts. If they have chocolate biscuits, you know they have a sweet tooth, popcorn; they probably like home movies or television. If they have a lot of microwave food, this could indicate they don’t like to cook. If they have spices and cooking ingredients, maybe they’re gourmet cooks. Also, look for pet food, that’s a giveaway or baby food or stuff that kids like. If you don’t like pets or kids you could be saving yourself a whole lot of time by just checking out their shopping cart. The other thing about flirting in the supermarket is that people are usually far more casual when doing their shopping so you are seeing them in a more relaxed state, unless of course, they have come straight from work.
I have been followed around a supermarket regularly and it has led to a few very nice dates. In fact, it would have lead to a much more committed relationship, but I was from out of town and left the following week. I had just arrived in Houston in USA for a seminar and was going to be there for 10 days attending a very intensive seminar with long hours. As soon as I arrived at the hotel, I caught a taxi and headed to the nearest supermarket to stock up on some goodies to see me through; water, fruit and things I could eat without spending a fortune on room service. Once I got to the supermarket, I asked the taxi driver to wait for me because I was in a strange place and as it seemed a bit isolated, I wasn’t sure how I was going to get another taxi. I was rushing around the store and very focused on what I needed, but I was no sooner in there and I realised that this guy was following me around and trying to make conversation at the diary cabinet. I didn’t take too much notice because I was in such a hurry, but guess what, we magically ended up at the check out together, perfectly timed, how about that! After he made conversation and we started to chat, I ended up going out to dinner with him and to a polo match and lunch and so on. But, I was headed to New York City, then onto Dallas. Much to his disappointment I couldn’t’ see how it could work, although he was keen to take it further, so believe me, you just never know who you might meet in the supermarket.
Then when I was living in Orlando, Florida USA, I had several men follow me around the supermarket, and one literally left his shopping trolley in the store to follow me outside and make conversation, but I was in a relationship so that was the end of that. I have had many other similar experiences in supermarkets, and it never ceases to amaze me how much of a powerful singles pickup place this venue is. Don’t be too distracted by reading the back of the product labels, there could be far more interesting things happening just around the corner in the next isle.
Café
There are certain things you can do while sitting in a café, particularly having breakfast or lunch. Breakfast is a good time to flirt because you will find that many men and women go to their favourite local café in the mornings to get their cup of coffee and read the paper. Next time you see someone you’re interested in and they appear to have half read their paper you can go over and ask them if they’ve finished and would they mind if you read their used paper. By doing this you can sometimes strike up a conversation, depending on how approachable they are or how focused they are on their paper. If you use your brightest most sparkly smile, you are sure to get the attention you want. Now you will have to watch out for wedding rings, if there is a ring, don’t bother, walk away.
It’s a great idea to be a regular in a particular place, that way the staff get to know you and make you feel comfortable and at home. It’s easier to get a conversation going with someone you like if you have both been going there for a while and recognise each other. Remember, smile with your eyes, your whole face needs to light up. You can start the conversation with openers like; Great coffee here isn’t it. Or mention something about the headlines in the paper, and of course, there’s always the, ‘do you live around here’ or whatever else just pops into your head.
Walking Along The Street
Men just walking along the street have even flirted with me. When this happens and you are interested, you can look back at them (they will usually be following you, not be in-front of you) as this will give them encouragement and let them know you’re interested. I have literally had someone follow me up the street and give me a flower – wow, what a feeling!
If you do want to take a flirtation further then do remember you don’t know who they are so be aware of how much you let them know about yourself and think carefully about where you meet. A coffee in a busy shopping centre might be the best starting point until you get to know someone better, and take along a friend.
Singles Bars
This is an obvious place to go, but it can be very impersonal. The other thing is you don’t know how much people have had to drink, so you can never be sure of how genuine they are. For instance, how ‘present’ can you be in a crowded noisy room full of people drinking laughing and talking and maybe eating as well. It can be difficult to get the attention of a man or women across the other side of the room, but for some of you, it will be a challenge worth trying.
Parties
At a party, there is more likelihood of you knowing the people there or at least they have what I call a reference point. They will most probably know someone you know and you can ask about them and get a mini reference. At least this way you can get an idea who they are and what they’re like. This is safer ground than a bar and you be opening flirtatious if you are attracted to each other.
Bookstores
Bookstores are more difficult because people are usually being quiet and concentrating on their book purchases. But if it’s somewhere you go regularly you will get to know the other people who also frequent there and at least you know you have something in common.
Bookaholics love other bookaholics because they don’t have to explain their addiction and the hours they spend hiding their head in a book. Many bookstores now have a little café inside making this a great place to go and sit whilst looking through your intended purchases. You can always strike up a conversation and say something like. “That looks like a great book’, and this will tell you how responsive they are. Also the choice of books they are looking at or browsing through will tell you something about the person and you can decide from this information if you want to get to know them better.
Gym
This is one of the greatest venues to meet people, which is right up there with the supermarket. It’s the hottest place to meet guys and gals. If you are not meeting heaps of people in the gym then you need to pay more attention on what’s happening around you than on the instructor. Take your eyes off the television screen and check out the talent. Seriously, joining a gym is a great investment in many ways, it’s a smorgasbord down there, so get your hot bodies to the gym and invest in a membership now. Once you become a regular, you will meet people.
Sporting Places
It’s a good idea to attract people who have the same interests as you. It makes life more enjoyable and much easier if you are compatible and have things in common. A high compatibility rating does ensure a better relationship success rate. If you’re interested in tennis join a tennis club. If you like to play golf then join a golf club. Whatever your interests are, join that club.
With Shopping Parcels
Battling to pick up your shopping bags, and oh no, you have dropped one. Maybe that nice person you noticed earlier will come and help you.
Asking For Directions
Oh dear, it looks like you have lost your way. Perhaps you are new in town, or maybe you haven’t got a street directory. Whatever the reason, people are generally helpful with directions and will assist someone in distress.
Ask for a pen
This is another one of those great conversation openers.
There are many ways to connect with people, all you have to do is put some thought and planning together so you are prepared.
Good Luck…. Be flirtatious and have fun.
