By Jennifer Angel

What People Notice

I really believe that most men and women don’t see all the trouble you go to, your friends will, but your partner, probably not. So you ask yourself, why go to all the bother. Firstly, you do it for yourself and secondly, even though people won’t see all the details, they do notice the total package. They see the overall result, and that means that all the little details that you have painstakingly taken the trouble to do will pay off in the end. For instance, if you have your hair done regularly, chances are it is healthy and looks gorgeous. He or she may not notice that you have just had your hair done and will certainly not understand the whole maintenance program that happens to keep it looking beautiful, but they will notice if your colour is outgrown and the ends are ratty and unkempt. If you decide to take the relationship to a sexual level, you will want your feet pampered with a pedicure so they are silky soft and beautifully manicured. Your partner may not notice that you have just had a pedicure, but he or she will notice if your heels are all rough and scratchy on their skin. It is worth going to the trouble of up keeping your beauty maintenance program for your partner, but primarily, if it makes you feel good about yourself, then mission accomplished!

Like attracts like.

Most of us have a vision of the type of person we are looking for. We may not even think about it consciously, but have a think back now about all the men or women you have dated over the years and see if there are any similarities. Generally, there will be similarities. Have they been sporty type of people, are they tall, short, thin or fat. Mostly we go for the same type of person, and someone who has a similar build that we have been used to, or maybe they are similar to our Dad or Mom so we feel comfortable being with and around them. Maybe they are a bit like us in the way they dress and present themselves. Of course, there are those cases where opposites attract, and a tall guy ends up with a small petite woman. However, have you ever noticed that some couples actually look alike, as if they are brother and sister? This is very evident, have a look around and you’ll see what I mean. It’s like we attract the people who look like us as we are so comfortable with that look because it’s so simular to ourselves. People will often comment on couples saying, they look good together, and it’s true they do look good together and often they actually look simular. It’s the same principle when people say that they look like their pets. A sporty type of guy is more likely to have a lean energetic dog, then a fat lazy type of dog. True isn’t it?

Sex Appeal

We all know that one of the first things on a man’s mind when he meets a girl he’s attracted to is how long it will take him to get her into bed. Well let’s be honest about this, we’d like to think this is not the case, but my research tells me it generally is the case. Yes, of course, they are also interested in conversation, compatibility and all that, but sex appeal comes way up on top of their list. But this is not solely for men, it can also be the same for women.

The best way to have sex appeal and to attract someone’s attention is to feel good and sexy about yourself. If you don’t feel good about yourself and if you don’t think you are sexy or an attractive person then there’s a good chance that someone else will think and feel the same way. If you feel good about yourself, your appearance and the person you are, you will instantly be more attractive. This means you need to come to terms with your own sexuality. How do you feel about sex, is it a nasty word, have you had a bad experience, do you need to deal with some past baggage? If so, start working on this attitude straight away, and see a therapist if necessary. The more comfortable you are about your own sexuality the more attractive to an intimate partner you will be. There’s a lot more to beauty than what you see on the outside!

Do It For Yourself

At the end of the day, feeling good and looking good is about doing it for you. Not for anyone else, but you, and that is the truth of the matter. It’s important that you are living your life for you and not for anyone else. This is your life, and it’s the choices you make for yourself that are important.

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