Knowing what your personal relationship deal makers and breakers are can save a lot of dating anguish. Couples waste more time than they should on relationships that simply won’t work out in the long run. By exploring what does and doesn’t work in the beginning, you’ll save yourself a lot of time and heartache that could be avoided.
Here’s what the people on the street said about their personal relationship deal breakers.
Cheating and any type of physical or mental abuse would be my relationship deal breakers. If my partner cheated on me once I could possibly forgive them but it would take a long time to actually forgive and forget. – Sarah Quarrella
If my partner is not respectful to other people including myself then that would be my deal breaker. I don’t want to ask or demand respect, it should be a given. – Dan Myers
I think people have a bad habit of telling their significant others what they want to hear instead of the truth. I believe that if you are yourself and tell people from the beginning who you are and what they can expect from you then it will result in fewer problems. If someone is not upfront with me from the start then I can’t expect them to be in my future either. – Julissa Quezada
I need to be with someone that genuinely loves and accepts my family unconditionally. I could never commit myself to marriage with someone who didn’t accept my family given that they would become a part of my family. – Joe Flickinger
I need someone to be funny, down to earth and share a love for animals like I do. Someone with a major ego is also a huge turn off. – Cathy Flickinger
The relationship deal breaker for me would be Cheating or Abuse. I have been down the road of cheating in the past and that is a road I don’t won’t to walk again. I am so blessed to have found the love that I have with my husband Scott. We have an AMAZING marriage. I can honestly say that this is not a worry in my marriage and I am so thankful for that. – Tricia Williams
Not being able to grow with your partner, and someone who becomes jealous of my accomplishments. If a man can’t accept and love my children then that’s a deal-breaker for me, because my children are my life and they need to all get along. – Deborah Petrarca
My deal breakers are someone who has low self esteem, eats unhealthy and doesn’t make time to go to the gym. A person who has no motivation or drive for their career is also a deal breaker. – Bryce Kubecka
My biggest deal breaker would be lying. There is a fine line between trying to impress and lying. Just as in the animal world when the male peacock displays its elaborate tail in efforts to impress and court the female, the same basic instinct is displayed daily and nightly in bars across America. It is possible to impress a girl through confidence and honesty rather than by lying. Every lie you tell puts another crack in the foundation of your relationship and eventually your relationship will crumble. – Jessica Ramm
My biggest deal breakers are insecurity and jealousy. There is no bigger turn off then someone who isn’t confident in themselves and is always thinking that I am up to no good. – Michael Parks
Relationship dealmakers are the non-negotiable requirements you must have in order for a relationship to work for you. People have a tendency to settle for less instead of acknowledging their most inner wants and desires, which you deserve to have. When you know what you want from your partner, and are not willing to accept anything less, then you’re far more likely to find a healthy fulfilling relationship that will be both rewarding and satisfying.
Here’s what five people on the street had to say about their personal relationship dealmakers.
Leivy Roche says:
Relationship dealmaker. My dealmakers include compatibility, honesty, understanding, consideration and above all, trust and respect.
Personal standards and boundaries. If the definition of love and respect is not in unison, it’ll never work.
Michael DeLucia says:
Relationship dealmakers. She’s smart, beautiful on the inside and outside, has a positive mindset and she must love to cook.
Personal standards and boundaries. She needs to have her own life that doesn’t include me all the time. A partner had a life before they met me so why does it suddenly seem to change? I don’t want to feel like I am someone’s entire existence.
Leah Reese says:
Relationship dealmakers. What works best for me in a relationship is communication. Tell me how you feel and be honest. I’ve been in several relationships where the man tells me what he thinks I want to hear, and then acts completely different. Also, your goals need to be similar. I won’t date a man whose goals are nowhere near mine. It’s simple really; I’ve dated men that don’t want kids and it never works out. I’ve dated men whose goal in life was to work paycheck to paycheck to fuel his personal lifestyle of one party after the next; it NEVER works out for me. I’m looking for a man who is ambitious and wants a stable career with growth potential and a partner who wants a family. He also needs to balance his work and personal life. You think that would be easy to find, but I’ve had little to no success so far. My personal dealmaker is, if I would rather spend time with that one person more than anyone else on the planet, I think that’s a good indication that this man might be the one for me.
Personal standards and boundaries. My personal standards include a sense of humor; nothing worse than dating a huge stick in the mud or Mr. Boring. I want a man with a sense of faith, he doesn’t have to go to church every Sunday, but I think to have a faith is important. Also, a strong sense of family, I do not want a man with mommy/woman issues. I probably can’t fix him and don’t really want to either. Do you know how many years it took for me to realize that?
Mark Dixon says:
Relationship dealmakers. That she is sexy without being trampy, gets along with my entire family, is active and has a mind of her own.
Personal standards and boundaries. Honesty would be most important. No relationship will work unless you have trust. I also need a partner that is supportive and isn’t too selfish to take care of me if I am feeling down and out sometimes. I would return the favor as well for her any day.
Natalie Davis says:
Relationship dealmakers. Respect is what makes a relationship work for me. Honesty and faithfulness are also my dealmakers in any relationship.
Personal standards and boundaries. I think it’s extremely important to let your mate know that they are wanted by you and vice versa. I think it’s important to always bring your ‘A’ game for your partner so they know you always want to impress them.
So, now you have a good cross section of what guys and gals consider to be important and not so important in their love life. Use these opinions as thought provokers to sort out what your personal love requirements are. Once you are clear about what you do and don’t want in your life, it is a lot easier to go about attracting the love you want into your life.